It's been a while but I'm glad to be back! There's never any shortage of weddings happening around the globe.... even if half of them (sorry, I'm a realist) end in divorce.
So what do you think it is that ultimately sends 50% of couples from walking the aisle to walking the plank? What is it that makes couples undo the knot? Is it children, career differences, affairs, bad sex? There's no disputing that divorce can be a messy, and expensive, process. Why do couples ultimately cut the ties instead of staying in it for the long haul? I can't answer this question, as I bailed out on my own wedding before I could say "I do"... but some days I wonder what would've happened if I did utter those famous last words. Some days I regret that I didn't. But my story is still a work in progress... you'll just have to stay tuned to learn more. But what made you sever the ties? Was it an impulsive move or something, in the long run, that could've been fixable? I pass no judgment here... hell, I walked out on my own wedding... which is the most despicable move of all. I'm just curious. I wonder if the wedding's I toast, at least half of them, will end up the same way.
In my job as a professional wedding toaster, I try to excavate the one true gem, in my eyes at least, that makes the relationship I'm toasting so special. It is often not any big, grandiose moment, but rather a small gesture or a single moment that sums up the relationship of the newly betrothed. For Morty and Addy, my FAVORITE silverados (that's the senior citizen crew) it was a friendship set on fire. For Sam and Ella, it was sacrifice, acceptance and the love of a loveable mutt (aptly named Mutt... hell, I fell in love with him too). For Daisy and Randy, my favorite dancing cowboy and girl, it was the desire to try and the willingness to accept faults. And for Carrie, my BEST friend, and Ben, it was the fact that they link their pinky fingers together, totally unaware of this sweet gesture, when they read the paper together on Sunday mornings. I'm not naive... I know these things in and of themselves are not enough to keep a couple together, but they were, or so it seemed to me, enough to get them together.
So many times, it seems to me, couples can count off the things on their fingers that brought them to divorce, but can they remember what brought them together in marriage? Of course, in my line of work, that's what I'm interested in. Following is a link to one of my favorite shows, GLEE, and one of the more poignant numbers I found of the season.
http://www.thedailybeast.com/videos/2010/11/24/glee-marry-you.html
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The sheer mirth of this couple is enough to make me break out the Visine... and I don't admit that lightly. Will they end up one of the 50% stats or will they stay in it for the long haul? I know it's a TV show but still... the question merits asking. Let me reiterate here that I DO NOT judge. I'm the biggest train wreck there is when it comes to love, relationships and marriage. My father left me and my mom when I was five and I left my husband-to-be at the altar. I am CLEARLY not the poster child for Happily Ever After... but still. These are just some questions that were raised for me that I'd thought I'd pass on to my fellow readers.
Any thoughts? I'd love to hear.
Peace,
Maggie
